Yes, there is. I think that it would be more embarrasing for the guy to be raped than a girl because it is very uncommon for guys to get raped. I think that for a guy it would seem to be like an end of the world because he would feel "less of a man." His masculity would be lost. It would just haunt him for the rest of his life. Who knows maybe over the years the wounds would heal. I just think it depends more on a state of the mind. I read this book once by Margot Abbott called "An Innocent Hour." In this book there is a part where the guy gets raped, but what is very interesting is that he is not some young guy. He is a man. He is over like 30 or 40 years old. It is very hard for him in the book because he has a wife and imagine just how would you feel if your boyfriend or husband told you that he was raped? It is just hard to imagine.
If I would have a boyfriend who was being raped I wouldn't stop loving him. I think that I would love him a lot more for that. I would probably try my best in loving and taking care of him. I would probably try to hear him out and help him to heal his wounds. I wouldn't just leave him. I would love him more for just telling me all this. I mean it is just veryhard to imagine to be a guy, who has a girlfriend or who is married and having being raped. Honestly, I would love my boyfriend even more. I wouldn't leave him with all of this by himself. I would just tell him: "Listen honey, everything will be alright. We will get through all of this together. I love you so much." That's exactly what I would tell him. I wouldn't just leave him all alone. I would stand by his side no matter what.
The whole point of this blogpost is that in one of my classes we are reading Kite Runner, which is a bestseller and a very good book. I would recommend it to anyone. In Kite Runner, one of the main characters, Hassan, gets raped. Honestly, I was in shock after I have read that part, but anyways to get right to the point it just made me realize how the guy can feel after being raped. Do you think he will tell his father? Probably not, or maybe. Who knows! I didn't get to that part yet, but anyways can you just imagine to know a guy who was raped? I mean for me it is just hard to think about it. What about you guys? Think about it a little more.
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This is a great post, Karolina. You did a wonderful job thinking through your reactions to the rape, its place in the book, and how you would feel if it happened to a man you knew. This is an exemplary post.
Thanks Dr. Dana :)
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